In more than thirty years Alan Neale has accompanied, supported and helped guide those in transition. Transition from single to couple, from closet to openly gay. The doors of transition have been marked age, employment, failing health and so much more. Alan’s work as Transition Coach is shaped by the beliefs that no-one is called to be alone in their journey, that strength is needed for the journey and that there is an “eloquence of the now” to which attention must be given. Everyone, every day is in transition; Alan is for you an experienced, sensitive, alert companion in the journey
In Jonah chapter 4, the prophet is asked the same question twice by the Lord, “Is it right for you to be angry?” It seems to me that a lot of personal grief and psychic damage would be avoided, a lot of physical destruction escaped, if we could ask this question of ourselves. Maybe, with… Continue reading
The article below (click link) by Eli Finkel raises the inevitable dilemma of whether/when/where/how much partners should aim to “fix” their partner. In the film “Juno”, there is a scene in which one character says to her beloved, “God loves you just the way you are; but He loves you so much He wants you… Continue reading
5.0/5.0 Quality of Service: 5.0 Responsiveness: 5.0 Professionalism: 5.0 Value: 5.0 Flexibility: 5.0 Todd said… Alan is one of the most wonderful human beings that we’ve ever come in touch with. His unique charisma kept us full of ideas and gave us ways to personalize our ceremony. It was a pleasure getting to know him… Continue reading
The experience of “mixed feelings” is, I believe, intricately linked to the whole business of unrealistic or unconsidered expectations. But, frankly, though we “can’t live with them” neither can we “live without them” – at least, this side of eternity. So we urgently need someone to rescue us and provide a temporary pause, albeit… Continue reading
Sometimes I am asked how I prepare for sermons, the answer (especially irritating to those beginning their ordained ministry) is “years and years.” I say this not to irritate or befuddle but because I believe deep in the heart of God there is a divine faculty that is constantly preparing us for great things and… Continue reading
““A key to a healthy relationship is being present,” said James Roberts, author of “Too Much of a Good Thing: Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone?” The key, THE KEY, to a healthy and growing relationship is being present, paying attention. This is not easy, we fail but it is crucial – “big league.” And… Continue reading
A great NYT article on “Regrets” – their gift, their problem. How do people live without grace? In all relationships “regrets” enable us to be honest, proactive and move forward… with grace. Regrets! How to Turn Your Wishes Into Reality Instead of Regrets Sketch Guy By CARL RICHARDS MARCH 21, 2017 Last week,… Continue reading
So, at last… A Museum of Failures. When we obsess about our failures we become captured by them but when we acknowledge, consider and accept our failures they can become springboards for new and functional growth and success. This applies to our lives and to all our relationships! Ask St. Peter… Sweden’s Museum of Failures… Continue reading
Embrace change – embrace life! https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/21/style/modern-love-to-stay-married-embrace-change.html?_r=0 A couple of years ago, it seemed as if everyone I knew was on the verge of divorce. “He’s not the man I married,” one friend told me. “She didn’t change, and I did,” said another. And then there was the no-fault version: “We grew apart.” Emotional and physical… Continue reading
This morning (at 9am) the teaching series on “Hospitality” continues, today “Hospitality of the Mind.” Closed hearts tend to be inhospitable and so do closed minds. The spiritual vocation to renewal is a vocation to consider, even consider again, new ideas and new perspectives. Again it is important to consider what it is that makes… Continue reading