The article below (click link) by Eli Finkel raises the inevitable dilemma of whether/when/where/how much partners should aim to “fix” their partner.
In the film “Juno”, there is a scene in which one character says to her beloved, “God loves you just the way you are; but He loves you so much He wants you to change.” This expresses the creative tension that occurs in healthy and functional relationships. On the one hand, we don’t want to be indifferent to our partner. On the other hand, we don’t want to pester and “nag”. There has to be a healthy halfway point… and there is, always, with God’s dealing with His/Her creation… this is what grace is all about!
So, in all things, seek and strive to be “gracious.”