Alan Neale

Transition Coach

It’s Happening Now

In more than thirty years Alan Neale has accompanied, supported and helped guide those in transition. Transition from single to couple, from closet to openly gay. The doors of transition have been marked age, employment, failing health and so much more. Alan’s work as Transition Coach is shaped by the beliefs that no-one is called to be alone in their journey, that strength is needed for the journey and that there is an “eloquence of the now” to which attention must be given. Everyone, every day is in transition; Alan is for you an experienced, sensitive, alert companion in the journey

“Making Decisions – the Process” – A Series of Three Studies presented by Alan Neale. Sundays January 15-29th, 2017 at 9am. Honyman Hall, Trinity Church, Newport RI

Some years back Malcolm Gladwell published “Blink”; in the book he argued well that we seem to have lost the ability to hear and follow the immediate decisions of our hearts and have surrendered this to a long process of decision-making. I agree… in part. Decision-making occurs throughout our days – from the minute and… Continue reading

The demon populated ‘mid-term’

The Book of Psalms in Hebrew Scripture is constantly, and inexorably, the expression of all human emotions. The Book encompasses the most human of emotional experiences as fear, praise, jealously, confusion and anger. Thank God it does not massage nor anesthetize the starkness of these wayward and wild emotions; God’s presence seems not to require… Continue reading

Processed Peace!

Given my British background we may well agree to disagree on the pronunciation of “process” – is it “proh… (long ‘o’)” or “pror… (short ‘o’)? However it is pronounced, we won’t argue will we? “Let’s call the calling off.. off”. Well that was complicated but it is just the beginning of considering the importance of… Continue reading

The Horrid Nature of Enthusiasm?

The story is told that when John Wesley (then a member of the Church of England) approached Bishop Butler of Bristol to recount Wesley’s conversion, the Bishop responded, “Enthusiasm, sir, is a horrid thing; a very horrid thing indeed”. Now remember that the Bishop was an Anglican and that Episcopalians (the American expression of Anglicanism)… Continue reading

Be Gone Liars and Truth-Twisters

In pre-marital conversations I will often raise the question, “What place have secrets in a loving and trusting relationship?”. Really this involves the presence and consequence of lying about the truth. The lying, deceiving partner must recognize that it will take some time, an incalculable time, for the other partner to regain confidence in the… Continue reading